Imagine looking from the front of the car at the suspension

This is a very simple illustration but shows why I want to get it right. I really don't know what ideal is but I believe the factory "static" setting is it. To really understand how big is big I would need to study the actual control arm travel and the hub camber change. I don't really have the time for that now.
Just another point the dimensions I measured are the spring and also the spring perch and isolator thickness. I need to know the complete stack up. For the spring perches I had turned they have a thinner flange so I reduce some of the total stack up and the control arm moves that bit closer to the ideal position.. I hope that clears up what I was after.
The stiffer spring is common for lowered cars and for hitting a specific wheel frequency (check out wheel rate if you are not familiar). In this situation the heavier spring limits the amount of suspension travel, the shock manages the how quickly the suspension responds. The trade off is a harsher ride. For a given load the spring will compress only so much. That is important because the change in camber and toe is minimal because the jounce/rebound range is small - softer spring will have a larger jounce and rebound range. I know this is lots of random info but it does all come together. I know I did not answer all your questions but I will try to address more tomorrow.
The thing for me is I don't know this car that well and it is best to get the input from other owners. They have been around for along time and I don't want to make too many assumptions ans reinvent the wheel. Your help and info has been very, very helpful.